CHICAGO—The expansive structure on the grounds of The National Center became the venue for a thought-provoking plenary session on marriage and family during this year’s Nation of Islam’s annual Saviours’ Day celebration on February 22.
The session, which drew believers and families from near and far, centered on the Teachings of Allah in the Person of Master Fard Muhammad through the Most Honorable Elijah Muhammad and the principles of courtship, as emphasized in the Nation of Islam.
Led and moderated by Student Minister Jeffrey Muhammad from Mosque Maryam in Chicago, the speakers included Eastern Regional Student Minister Arthur and his wife, Sister Nichelle Muhammad from Mosque No. 7 in New York, Student Minister Nuri Muhammad from Mosque No. 74 in Indianapolis.
And Brother Darryl Muhammad and his wife Student Southern Regional M.G.T. Captain Dr. Nusaybah Muhammad from Mosque No. 15 in Atlanta. Each panelist brought unique perspectives, personal testimonies, and spiritual insights into the discussion.
The importance of proper courtship
At the heart of the session was an exploration of the Nation of Islam’s structured courtship process, highlighting its role in fostering strong, faith-based marital bonds.
Sister Nichelle Muhammad, who is a judge, eloquently described courtship as a process of discernment—likening it to a courtroom trial where one must carefully study, observe, and assess potential partners.
“Courtship is about discerning truth from falsehood,” she explained. Keeping one’s eyes open to compatibility, character, and values was emphasized as central to this sacred process.
The Nation of Islam’s courtship process was described as a protective and purposeful system designed to prevent individuals from entering relationships destined for conflict.
The session underscored the importance of aligning faith, values, and personality traits that contribute to successful, lasting marriages.
The panelists, each offering their perspectives, encouraged believers to create a personal list of traits desired in an ideal partner.
However, they cautioned attendees first to reflect inwardly and assess whether they embody the traits required to attract and complement such a partner. Spiritual alignment was emphasized as the highest priority, followed by compatibility in personality and, lastly, physical traits.
“Marriage begins with faith,” explained Student Min. Nuri Muhammad. He cited the Holy Qur’an’s guidance on the qualities of believing men and believing women.
He shared practical advice, reminding attendees, “Whatever you do, don’t reveal your list during the courtship process. Observe their actions, have conversations, and decide if you’re meeting a partner—or a project.”
The role of faith, community
Faith in Allah, in the Person of Master Fard Muhammad, and active participation in the Nation of Islam’s mission were highlighted as essential foundations for building a successful marriage, as explained by Brother Darryl and Sister Nusaybah.
Panelists stressed the importance of finding a spouse who is not only committed to shared faith but also dedicated to community engagement and the broader mission of spreading Islam.
One should look for a partner who embodies service because such individuals are often “working out their salvation,” a quality seen as beautiful and admirable, the couple explained.
The session noted potential red flags in relationships, such as a lack of mindfulness toward faith-based duties or refusal to engage in the work of Islam. “Without duty and involvement, beauty fades, and relationships lose their harmony,” shared Brother Darryl.
Courtship as a divine process
The Teachings outline the divine role of Allah in compatibility for marriage, as explained within the Holy Qur’an. Plenary attendees were reminded that Allah blesses those who remain patient and committed to their spiritual growth with suitable partners.
The information presented resonated with attendees and reinforced the necessity of relying on wise judgment, observation, and intuition in courtship.
“Courtship isn’t meant to be a rushed or casual process,” said Student Min. Arthur Muhammad. “It’s an art, rooted in faith and guided by Allah.”
The session ended with expressions of gratitude for the Coming of Master Fard Muhammad, the Teachings of the Most Honorable Elijah Muhammad, and the Honorable Minister Louis Farrakhan.
Families and attendees expressed their appreciation for the structured guidance provided by the courtship plenary. The valuable discussion left attendees inspired and equipped with actionable guidance for building stronger relationships rooted in faith, love, and shared values.
Sister Cassandra Muhammad, from Houston, Texas, stated that she learned about “the basis for marriage, starting with the courtship.” She emphasized the importance of individual preparation before entering a courtship.
Additionally, she found value in learning steps for blended families, including strategies for integrating and respecting adult children in the process. A key takeaway for her was understanding the roles of being maintainers and helpmeets within a marriage.
Sister Lisa Muhammad from Atlanta highlighted that marriage requires teamwork, patience, and a shared path between partners. “The two have to be on the same accord,” she said, reflecting on the importance of fulfilling promises made to Allah (God), emphasizing that divorce is discouraged, calling for couples to honor their commitment.