By Charlene Muhammad CHARLENEM

Skid Row Activists honoring Black Fathers Coach Ron, ‘DJ General’ Jeff Paige, and Manuel Benito Compito. Photo: Charlene Muhammad

LOS ANGELES – Black men in America face high unemployment, mass incarceration, and homelessness, yet they defy those odds every day to be good fathers to their children and do good in their communities.

According to estimates from the U.S. Census Bureau, Black males were 48 percent of the 21.5 million Blacks as of 2013.   Black women make up 52 percent of that population.

The Black unemployment rate as of March 2015 was 10.1 percent, compared to the 5.5 percent U.S. unemployment rate, according to   And Blacks are 50 percent of the 1.75 million homeless in America, according to the Statistic Brain Research Institute.

Honored fathers show their awards during Skid Row’s Fathers’ Day Celebration. Photos: Marc D. Simon

Challenges like the shrinking Black male population and lack of jobs are roadblocks for men who want to be active in their children’s lives and their communities. So Black men who are doing well must pull double duty to help raise sons and daughters whose fathers aren’t present, said Deric Muhammad, a Houston, Texas-based activist who works to empower fathers and young men.

“What made me want to give back is just me sitting back and reflecting on the circumstances that I came from,” Mr. Muhammad stated.

His father died when he was 11 years old. His mother had a very bad drug problem for the better part of his childhood. He and his siblings often moved from house-to-house, and he became engaged in some criminal activity as a directionless youth.

“But, I believe that if God can bring me out of it, he can bring anybody out of it,” Mr. Muhammad said. That premise compelled him to launch Project Forward to reach out and give back to disadvantaged youth in urban America, particularly Houston.  

Dwayne Freeman with daughter Haylie displays his Fathers’ Day Certificate.

He and other men mentor young boys through the initiative. He wanted to pour into those youth manhood and other lessons he has gained from his studies in the Nation of Islam under Minister Louis Farrakhan’s leadership.  

Since it began in 2015, Project Forward has offered mentorship programs that include lessons in auto mechanics and soon, computer coding.

Last year, it hosted its first Day of Encouragement for Black Fathers in MacGregor Park on Fathers’ Day. Hundreds turned out to support it, including special guest speaker Student Minister Nuri Muhammad of Mosque No. 74 in Indianapolis.

The event featured games and balloon bouncers for children and football and basketball tournaments. But fathers were the highlight. “What we tried to do was create an environment where even if a father didn’t have any money, he could just grab his son or daughter and bring them to the park and just have a good time, and we paid for everything,” Mr. Muhammad said.

“We call it a day of encouragement for Black fathers, and it came out of the observation that Mothers’ Day in the Black community literally rivals Easter. Literally. But Fathers’ Day not so much,” Mr. Muhammad explained.

It’s more of a painful day that pales in comparison to the rightful celebrations on Mothers’ Day, he said. “Look at the rate Black men are killed in America. Many of them were fathers. Many of them are dead,” Mr. Muhammad stated.  

“Look at the rate that Black men are unemployed in this country … at double the national average and that affects our ability to provide for our children. And unfortunately, some of us, if we can’t provide financially, we don’t think very much of ourselves as fathers, so we just stay away,” he said.

Deric Muhammad conducts a skit with youth during Smart’N Up Black Male Summit 2015.

For Marc Simon, incarceration added to his struggles to be a parent. The author, a husband and father of two, spent 12 years in prison. When he went in, his daughter was seven. When he came home, she was 19.

“When I got out, I came looking for my little girl, but my little girl is now a grown woman or approaching grown woman status,” Mr. Simon said. People assumed he was going to exit prison in search of a woman, but for the first six months he didn’t even date, but there wasn’t balance, he said.  

“There was just a father who missed his daughter and a daughter who grew up without her dad, and it tested desire on both of our parts to reach into the relationship. It’s hard to swallow, but those years are gone,” he continued.

Sometimes entire years would pass before he would see his child due to the distance from her home. “I would be lying if I told you that I didn’t go through a lot of depression, a lot of anger,” he said.

Mr. Simon defied the odds and overcame through his strong faith in God and study.   He immersed himself in things that were positive, otherwise he would have imploded. He chronicled his journey in his book, “The Deferment of Hope: A Story of Exile, Faith and Redemption,” in hopes his story may help other men overcome their own ordeals.

Deric Muhammad addresses youth during Smart’N Up Black Male Summit 2015.

With his psychology degree as a tool, he counsels and mentors others. He also facilitates various self-help groups and runs a therapy group called “Thinking Toward Change” for people who have been incarcerated.

“It’s getting people to realize that changing our lives means changing our thoughts,” Mr. Simon stated.

His father was a good dad whose work in the animation industry meant long periods away from home, sometimes up to six months a year. Mr. Simon gravitated to gangs and activity that landed him in prison. But before incarceration, after his daughter’s birth, he also stopped going to his old neighborhood, got two jobs working six days a week in security and bagging groceries, he told The Final Call.

“My problem was the discipline that it takes to stand up under that kind of pressure or stress was something that had not been taught to me, something that I did not yet have,” Mr. Simon said.  

Their Skid Row neighborhood Gladys Park is exactly where many Black fathers are gaining strength and empowerment not just on Fathers’ Day, but throughout the year, said activists during a June 13 celebration of homeless dads.

The 14th annual Fathers’ Day celebration featured a 3-on-3 basketball tournament, breakfast and lunch, music and above all, fellowship, activists said.

Approximately 200 men over age 40 and over on Skid Row began organizing in 1996 to do something for the children there. The Fathers’ Day Celebration was the one activity they found could keep everyone together, according to Manuel Benito Compito of OGN Service Association.

Sheldon Smith, founder and director of the Dovetail Project

“The reason why the 3-on-3 tournament became good is because Blood and Crips play out here, and through basketball we were able to unite them and through that still be able to honor them as fathers and stay in touch with them,” he explained.  

“One thing about Skid Row is that most people think men down here are dead beat dads. That’s just the stereotype image, but I’ve got 13 grandkids, eight kids. I take care of all my kids and every man you see being honored here today, they take care of their kids,” Mr. Compito said.

They’ve made a difference in the lives of Dwayne Freeman and Haylie, his 4-year-old daughter. “Parenting as a homeless Black man is rough, but I’m hanging in there for her,” he told The Final Call. “Housing and just getting people to listen to us, at least down here, is challenging,” he said of his one year wait.

Mr. Freeman spent eight years in prison and was released in 2005. He and Haylie’s mother separated before learning she was pregnant, but they are working out their parenting responsibilities without court or child support agency involvement, he said.

OGN Service Association helps the men cope through constant mentoring, Mr. Compito said, pointing to the basketball court-classroom where the men shot hoops and warmed up. “This is where they mentor each other because everybody’s going through something. Somebody lost their woman … Someone’s been to the penitentiary, gone through college, lost his job, so we mentor to each other,” he continued.

The greatest challenge for homeless men is the belief that without a job or money, they can’t be a part of their children’s lives, but that’s not true, he added.

“A lot of times your kids just want that time but a lot of men feel their self-worth is down here. They’re sleeping on the streets, and their self-esteem is gone but we teach them no! Go see your kid!”

Gladys Park is far safer than it used to be. Black men who led cleanups as part of the Skid Row Positive Movement began hosting community activities there and people began trusting them. They helped give people something constructive to do when the city wouldn’t, argued “General” Jeff Paige, a Skid Row activist.

Contrary to prevalent negative images of Skid Row, there’s regular life going on, he said, and that’s in large part due to Black men’s efforts to lift and protect the community.

Their work as the Gladys Park Improvement Project resulted in a Nike basketball court, chess tables, shade structures, fitness equipment and even a self-cleaning public toilet. “In Skid Row we created over a half million dollar project, so that’s what we can do for self,” Mr. Paige stated.

Sheldon Smith, founder and director of the Dovetail Project, created the Chicago-based program to help high risk youth who are fathers through a 12-week curriculum. It features guest speakers who teach the fathers about the roles, rights, and responsibilities of fatherhood, their importance in the lives of their children, and how to avoid incarceration.

“Many of these young men grow up and have children and want to become the best fathers that they can, but fatherhood doesn’t come with a map or a manual,” Mr. Sheldon said.

Young fathers are really trying to find their way but there are no jobs or resources, particularly pertaining to fathers, and that puts them in a hole, he argued.

Mr. Smith started the Dovetail Project after falling in love with community organizing through M.A.G.I.C. (Metropolitan Group for Igniting Civilization), a non-profit youth development and advocacy group on Chicago’s Southside.

He worked on education, youth and gang violence, juvenile justice, and at age 20, he learned he was having a daughter.

He set out to create an initiative that supported young fathers between the ages of 17-24, particularly Black fathers, because he found none that really supported them.

“You would think because a man is 23- or 24-years-old, he doesn’t need anyone to hold his hand, but when you are struggling because you don’t know what that map or manual looks like to be a successful dad, and you are lacking the mentorship that you need to just be a great man in general, you are seeking that,” he explained.

The Dovetail Project, which is a volunteer initiative, just held its 2015 Fatherhood Training Class graduation on June 11 at the community room at WVON 1690AM, Chicago’s Black talk radio station. Graduates received a $300 stipend, a certificate, and a job or GED certificate.

Mr. Smith urged a greater focus on fatherhood, and more than just one day a year.

“It’s hurtful to call a man a deadbeat daddy when he may have a felony, have a background or no background, and he’s going out every day trying to look for employment but there isn’t any employment or when he’s stepped outside the community to look for employment and he still can’t find it. We’re trying to raise the narrative around fatherhood,” he said.

While Black men are more likely to live apart from their children than Whites, they are more involved in the lives of their children than Whites and Hispanics, according to a Centers for Disease Control and Prevention study and Pew Center research. The CDC report covered a sample of 10,403 men aged 15—44 years from 2006-2010.

Black dads are more likely to live apart from their children, about 44 percent don’t live with children, but the Pew Center found 67 percent of Black fathers who don’t live with their children see them at least once a month, compared to 69 percent of White dads and 32 percent of Latino dads who don’t live with their children.

Among fathers who resided with their children, Black dads were more involved in their children’s lives. In the Pew survey, Black fathers were most likely to bathe, dress, diaper, or help their children use the toilet on a daily basis. This was true for 70 percent of Black dads who lived with their children, compared with 60 percent of White dads and 45 percent of Latino dads.

Although few fathers outside the home could say they did this every day, but Black dads were the top hygiene helpers (12 percent, compared to 6 percent for Whites and 7 percent for Latinos).

The Pew Research Center found 62 percent of all Black fathers read to their children at least several times per week. Black dads in the CDC survey who didn’t live with their children were more than twice as likely as their White counterparts to host story time every day. These same “absent” Black dads were significantly the most likely to talk to their school-age children about their day–more than 50 percent reported having done so several times per week or more, compared to 34 percent of absent White dads and 23 percent of absent Latino fathers.

According to CDC, Black patriarchs are the likeliest of all men to be stay-at-home dads (13 percent of Black dads who live with their children stayed at home), while 29 percent of Black38 fathers are single heads of households.

The percentage of children living apart from their fathers has more than doubled in the past 50 years, according to Pew research, but absent doesn’t mean uninvolved. And in some cases, absent Black fathers were the most involved of all.

(Jazelle Hunt of the NNPA Newswire contributed to this report.)